Do You Have to Feel Angry to Be Powerful?
Looking at what we have paired with power is becoming critical.
Without healthy access to anger and rage, we cannot be whole human beings.
I’m seeing the term “female rage” everywhere, and I’m certainly familiar with the feeling. Mr. Luigi just demonstrated our collective anger at our broken health “care” system. The angry fallout from the election shows no sign of simmering down anytime soon.
We are angry, and in many ways, suppressing anger has brought us here. We are seeing the Shadow aspects of rage exploding all around. Volcanic heat explodes outside from inside us.
It took me years to be comfortable with anger and then a little longer to embrace my rage. It wasn’t allowed for women in my family. You could be sad and eat sugar until you were a walking zombie, but anger - verboten!
It also took me a long time to understand that I didn’t need to get angry to establish boundaries. I could just do so from the start.
I didn’t need anger to leave a job; I could recognize my time was up and go.
I didn’t need to be angry to say no; I could simply say, “No.”
What is your relationship to it? How was it modeled for you?
Do you wait to set boundaries until you’re pissed off?
Do you have to access anger to take action on your own behalf?
Do you people please until you explode and use anger to set yourself free?
When you contemplate what it means to be powerful in the world, does anger come to mind?
If a woman is powerful, does she have to be bitchy? Angry?
If a man is powerful, does he have to be cold? Angry?
When you keep whining about life, look for anger.
When fear doesn’t shift, look for anger.
When sadness gets stuck, look for anger.
When you express anger and then go numb…look for rage.
What is intertwined with anger, and what needs to shift so you can feel and express it without harm?
XO,
LMW
Huh... when fear doesn't shift, look for anger. Gonna have to sit with that a while.